July 6, 2004
PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS:
The happiest place in Iraq: Baghdad's marriage bureau (Annia Ciezadlo, 7/07/04, The Christian Science Monitor)
Instability in Baghdad has spurred many people to put plans on hold, abandoning half-built houses and dropping out of college. But despite the unrest - or perhaps partly because of it - the number of marriages has nearly doubled since the fall of Saddam Hussein's regime in April 2003."The people I see are not affected by insecurity - I've had a 75-percent increase," says Muhammad Jawad Talikh, a marriage judge in the neighborhood of Kerrada for the past 32 years. "Young people are wishing for a better life, so they come to me and get married."
Karim Haider, deputy clerk at the Kerrada marriage court, registered 1,460 marriages in all of 2002. From May 1 to the end of 2003 - just seven months - he clocked 1,468. "And it's still increasing, every day," he says, stamping a flutter of engagement papers with an official seal.
"This year, we've been having weddings here almost every day," says Thamer Salim, the manager of Mashriq, a wedding hall that caters primarily to Iraqi Christians. Mashriq's accountant, Raed Khalil, estimates that the hall has twice as many weddings as before the war, mostly couples in their twenties.
There are many reasons behind this new enthusiasm: Before the war, military service was compulsory for men, and marriage was seen as a desertion risk. For that reason, young men needed permission from a host of government agencies.
Today, all they need is money. The dowry - money the groom's family gives the couple - is part of the official marriage contract in Iraq. The going rate is half a million dinars, or $350. (In case of divorce, the groom pays a penalty, usually double the dowry.)
But while most of Iraq is suffering from inflation, the price for brides is going down. "Today, the girls' parents aren't asking for as much, which tells us that their families don't want any barriers to marriage," says Mr. Talikh. "Sometimes, they only ask that he give her a copy of the Koran."
Thank women's rights for the discount.
While the supposedly pro-woman and pro-human rights Left wishes Saddam were still in power. Posted by Orrin Judd at July 6, 2004 7:47 PM
Yeah, well....if they were doing same-sex "marriages," then maybe we could be talking about progress.
Posted by: John Resnick at July 6, 2004 8:15 PMA beautiful story replete with all the right messages. How does one convey it to the Britney Spears generation?
Posted by: Peter B at July 6, 2004 10:22 PMSounds like removing the more archaic and
totalitarian barriers to marriage could lead
to the ascendecy of the nucular family.
I thought dowrys were provided by the bride's family?
Posted by: Robert Duquette at July 7, 2004 11:02 AM